Polyamorous dating isn’t a new concept, but it’s been quite a trend recently, especially in cities like San Francisco. So what’s it all about?
First of all, it’s about respect and trust. Polygamous dating often happens within a community in a city and those who enter that community are screened for their sincerity. A polyamory dating site is slightly different in that it is open to all, but polygamy is different from just having an affair. You can, on some sites, say that you’re looking for affairs, but a proper poly dating site is for people who believe in open relationships and honoring genuine connections with people.
And the last bit really sums up polygamy - people looking to honor different connections they have with different people. Rather than focusing on one partner and one partner alone they’re open to experiencing different connections with different people.
If you don’t randomly happen to run into someone who is part of the polyamorous singles in your city, the best way to find polyamorous people is to join a dating site. A lot of people in the community use sites all singles use, they just specify they’re looking for open relationships. You can also find a poly dating site - i.e. a site for polygamy dating and polyandry dating only.
The best poly dating website is really one that caters to your needs. If you want to have secret affairs there are sites for that, whilst other sites are for polyamorous people specifically as well as polyfidelity dating, yet others cater for anyone looking for casual and serious dating, in whatever format. Depending on where you live you want to have a look at what suits you. You’ll want to find a site that has a lot of members in your area.
An important thing to remember as well is to be honest. If you’re looking for casual dates, then say so. If you want to date and are open to finding a relationship, but want an open relationship, then say so. If you want to be in a relationship as a couple dating other couples, then say so. You don’t necessarily have to lay it all out in your profile, but make people aware of what you want when you start dating them.